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Sunday, 10 January 2010

  • Xangans’ Lack of Diplomacy: My Xanga, My Opinions… Not Yours.

         So, while I was lying back at the beach letting my mind wander, I realized something. I was pondering some of the comments I received on my post, Girls, Be more Vocal in the Bedroom!, and thinking, “Alright, some constructive criticism to keep in mind…” when I realized… no it’s not! Now I see that when xangans post their point of view in a subject, others retaliate and respond in ridiculous ways. Those people seem to forget one thing… It’s not your post, not your blog, not your ideas, not your thoughts or opinions, and most definitely, NOT your right to INSULT others’ opinons.

    As Ray Bradbury says in the Coda of his book Fahrenheit 451…

    “The real world is the playing ground for each and every group, to make or unmake laws. But the tip of the nose of my book or stories or poems is where their rights end and my territorial imperatives begin, run and rule.”

    You are all completely entitled to your opinions, and I more than welcome constructive criticism. However, insults are not tolerated. There is a wonderful thing called diplomacy and being diplomatic. Webster’s dictionary provides the definitions, “skill in dealing with people; tact,” and “tactful and adroit in dealing with people,” respectfully. An example of diplomatically disagreeing with someone’s opinion is, “A woman's orgasm is on her, not the guy.  If she isn't saying what she wants and encouraging the guy in a way he knows what she wants, it's her fault if she's not having good sex.” (Sunrie) On the other hand, an example of someone who lacks diplomacy is;

    “first off your a lowzy writer with arrogant thoughts. first off "You'll be
    provided with greater pleasure, and he'll think it's hot that you're taking the initiative!" Sex isnt all about Pleasure its about connecting INTIMATELY with your partner there are emotions of your spouse that ONLY YOU will see not there friends or family its a very dellicate thing to talk about! instead your blabbing about it like its a conversation at the water cooler! LAME! 2nd.Why are you giving out sex tips If i was having problems i would go to a counselor with my spouse and ask what i can do to spice up my sex life. some people on xanga are complete idiots. and your not a sex therapist I suggest just giving advice to people who dont what the heck there doing.” – Jeremy_Sheer

    While, in my opinion, the spelling and grammar could have used some revision, the message is clear… This person hates other’s opinions on this rather sensitive subject. What do I think about this? Well, diplomacy keeps me from saying what I’m truly thinking, but I was honestly upset. If you are entitled to talk and write about what you please, then so am I. I understand sex is an intimate thing, I mean, you don’t end up in a relationship for more than 3 years and living together without taking that seriously.

         Look, if you like what I write, then that’s great! If you don’t, that’s great, too! I know my writings won’t be perceived the same way by everyone. Leave your comments, props, constructive criticism, and opinions. However, do Not Insult Me, because I am not writing to insult you. If you have an issue with what I write, then Don’t READ It! No one’s forcing you. And, if someone IS, then maybe you should take a hint… Again, as Ray Bradbury said;

    “All you umpires, back to the bleachers. Referees, hit the showers. It's my game. I pitch, I hit, I catch. I run the bases. At sunset I've won or lost. At sunrise, I'm going out again, giving it the old try.”

    Get where I’m coming from? What I write here are MY opinions, MY thoughts, and MY beliefs. You wouldn’t pick up a book and read it if it wasn’t of interest to you. Same goes with this blog. So, if you don’t like it and you only have bad things to say, at least do so with some respect. And if you lack the ability to be respectful and diplomatic, then get out of MY blog. It’s as simple as that.

    How many of you have experienced this same issue? How do/have you deal/dealt with it?

    Mucho, MUCHO Amor,

    Allison

    PS. “Be vocal” doesn’t mean scream your head off, it means SPEAK your mind. The volume at which you do so is up to you.

Thursday, 07 January 2010

  • Girls, be More Vocal in the Bedroom!!

        
         So, following my post, "Lack of a Female G-Spot...", I realized (Thanks to Sunrie )that truthfully, women are often times at fault for not having the pleasure they could be having during sex. Whether it's because you just aren't feeling it, don't think your man wants to hear it, or are too shy to show your wild side, in the end, you're the only one missing out! Your guy is gonna please himself to the fullest, and once he's reaching climax, he's gonna cum even if you haven't. So, if you want mind-blowing sex and the orgasms of your life, lose the shyness and let your inner tigress ROAR!!!

        Here are some tips that have worked wonders for me!
    1. When you take your time pleasing your guy, more often than not, he realizes that you want it to last. So, he gives you the same treatment back!
    2. When in missionary, it's easy to just lay back and let the guy do all the work, but it's not as pleasing! Which leads him to think it's okay to keep pumping away until he orgasms. Instead, gyrate you hips against his, and hold his hands as he holds the spots you want him to hold on to. He'll be entranced by the feelings and will be more willing to make it last so he can extend his own pleasure as well!
    3. On that same note, a woman's clit serves one truly wonderful purpose... to stimulate us sexually! So, don't be shy about losing control due to pleasure. Again, lose the shyness and guide his hand there. Tell him you want him to touch you there, and if he's not doing it in a pleasing manner, guide his hand to stimulate you as you want him to. You'll be provided with greater pleasure, and he'll think it's hot that you're taking the initiative!
    4. During girl on top, don't just pump away up and down like your riding a horse. Change speeds from time to time. Start out slow, then go faster. When you see that he seems like he might orgasm from it, slow down again. It's slight torture in the moment, but when you stop right before an orgasm, when you do let it come later, the pleasure is much greater.
    5. Also, remember he's going to be entranced by the way his member goes in and out of you, so lean back a bit and let him see it. If you think you need a little extra touch, stimulate your own clit or breasts. He'll think it's sexy as hell, and he'll be more than willing to take over if you just ask!
    6. When he does something that feels good, TELL HIM! Men want to be thought of as great in bed, so when they know what you like, they'll make a mental note of it. You'll enjoy it more, and he'll be more pleased with himself. You both win!
    7. BE VOCAL! BE VOCAL!! BE VOCAL!!! I can't stress this enough! Tell him how your feeling, what you want him to do to you, and moan when it feels like you're about to forget your name! Keep a sexy voice and sultry smile and look at him like he's the best you've ever had. Hell be more than willing to please!
         Remember though, porn stars are stopped right in the middle of the act about 20 times before they actually orgasm, and most of it ends up being fake. So, don't think that just because you saw the porn stars like it, it means that your man/girl will like it also! Before you try something new, talk about it. That way you run less of a chance or turning each other off, or having to sleep on the couch...

    Do you think there's something that should be added to this list? Have you tried any of these successfully? or did it backfire?

    Mucho Amor,

    Kashi

Wednesday, 06 January 2010

Tuesday, 05 January 2010

  • Lack of Female G-Spot...

    According to new research findings, the female G-Spot was all a hoax... it apparently doesn't exist. Scientists performed tests on a couple thousand women, and apparently, none of them showed signs of actually having the so-called G-Spot.

    When I first read this, I honestly said to myself, "You have got to be kidding me!" Then I realized, this is actually a sad story. There are apparently thousands, if not millions, of women out there that don't believe they have a g-spot... Either because they've never had sex, which is completely understandable, and I pray that they experience the bliss at some point, but worse than that... because they've just never had sex that was good enough. That is truly a heartbreaking thought! Especially for me! I mean... I have sex at least 3 times a week! If that special spot my man hits every time isn't my G-Spot, then researchers, buckle up!, you got something you need to 'discover'.

    Honestly, if you're a woman, and you've had sex (obviously), and you've never experience sex that gives you a toe-curling, heart-stopping orgasm, and leaves you glowing and craving your man more for at least the next couple days, then I'm sorry to say, you're just not having great sex. Either if it's because your man doesn't actually know what he's doing, or you're just not letting yourself truly enjoy it to the fullest.

    Let lose, ask your man to drive you crazy, then don't stop him if the pleasure just gets to be so intense you feel your skin might burst with fireworks... trust me, you'll reach something WAY beyond this solar system.

    ENJOY GREAT SEX, GIRLS!!!!! PLEASE YOUR WOMEN, GUYS!!!!!

    I'm gonna go have me some fun...

    Mucho Amor,

    Kashi

Thursday, 08 October 2009

  • A Note on Relationships

    Why is it that guys just can't seem to remember absolutely simple facts? Things that they even set up with you! And then, when they mess up, they accuse you of nagging.
    Guys, come on, face it. You screwed up and you hate being wrong just as much as we girls do. The difference? To you it's ok for you to get mad when we've messed up, but when you mess up, we're nagging.
    NEWSFLASH!!!! YOU "NAG" JUST AS MUCH AS WE DO!!!!

    If we don't answer the phone after having just finished telling you that the phone is staying home for whatever reason, you question us and argue that you've been worried some Chinese Human Trafficker kidnapped us, just 'cuz we didn't answer the phone. You get pissed and we have to be sorry and moe you feel better.
    Yet, you go out with your friends, say you will be home by a specific time, and when we call you an hour later after the time YOU chose, the plans changed and you FORGOT to call. We attempt conversation to understand why you can't just stick to THE PLAN, you get mad, and again we have to be sorry and make you feel better.

    See the unfair factor?
    If you're going to play it big and say you have balls, then GROW A PAIR AND TAKE RESPONSABILITY FOR YOUR SCREW UPS!!

    And this was just one of the many things you all do.

    By the way, if the excuse is that you were just chilling with your buds an lost track of time, then next time you want to get laid, you can call one of them too!!!

    Mucho Amor,
    Kashi

Sunday, 06 September 2009

  • Start of College Life

    K, so this will be a short blog to begin with, and will lengthen as I have the time to complete it.

    Last week was my first week of University...
    I LOVED IT!

    Never mind the new friends and people, which are all amazing and exciting. But the new surroundings? The chance to be a new you? It's the perfect chance to make yourself be whoever you want to be!

    So far, it's been tiring getting back into the sync of school and studying.
    But, I have a feeling it's all going to be absolutely worth it! ^_^

    I'll keep ya'll posted and spill some more info in the days to come.

    Take care! Have fun in life!

    Mucho Amor!!!

    Kashi

Monday, 03 August 2009

  • Prejudice...

    We've all had it happened, someone says something and we feel offended even when it wasn't meant to be taken that way. We all remember how many times we've felt that way, especially when it was said by someone we don't like. However, do you ever remember when you do it to someone else? Do you even realize it?

    I've been noticing for quiet a long time now, the fact that the internet is making people way too comfortable with their words and how they are put together. No one cares anymore about what they type and whether or not they are being stereotypical or prejudice. And sadly, it happens most often with Americans...

    We are all allowed our freedom of speech and expression and all that shnazz, but with that freedom comes a responsibility. Being able to be outspoken has worked against diplomacy. People try to express their opinions and make their ideas be heard, and others come around and shut them down with nasty words. What's up with that? If you don't agree with something, then say that, and give your reasoning for it (or not), but don't be an ass about it. What do you get out of putting the other person down? Though internet surfing, I've noticed, that most times this happens, it's Americans that are abusing their rights. Shutting down other people just because they don't agree, and not doing it in the most diplomatic manner. Everyone wonders why Americans are hated and sometimes taken advantage of in other countries, but it's all caused by that sense of superiority that is in place. How can anyone expect respect, equality, and honesty, when they're gallivanting around being unfair, racist, and prejudice? Even in online games, which my boyfriend plays his good share of, the Euro Versions are cleaner and the people nicer. The US versions, on the other hand, are rude, disturbing, and full of bad words. There's constant talk about sex in disturbingly vulgar ways. Don't get me wrong, sex is great, we all know that, but why must people go around parading their sex fantasies and using obnoxious jargon? Have a sexual fantasy? Go and do it instead of grossing out people with the overly sensitive and unnecessary details.

    Besides that, Americans are so close minded about other cultures and customs. Anything not understood is too much to handle and gets shoved aside. Just because you can't understand something, it doesn't mean it isn't true or has no logic.

    I'm an American as well, but I've lived outside of the US basically my whole life. Cross-Cultural Communication is the most interesting thing to me, and something most US inhabiting Americans could/will never understand. I've been through the Caribbean, Central America, Europe, and Asia, and I absolutely love all those places. And the people there? I very often love them more that the people in the US. They are open to foreigners and a chance to express their believes, culture, and customs. They welcome you with warm open arms and want to learn as much about you as they can. In the US? I have to hide my Puerto Rican culture in order to not be stereotyped and labeled, as have most immigrants that now make their way to the US. Instead of trying to embrace cultural difference (even though there's so much talk about doing that) people shun it out, overlook it, or insult it.

    Most Americans have forgotten that the US was formed by many different immigrants that came to colonize, and now try to turn away from that. The US could be stronger if only they decided to be more open-minded and accepting.

    Go the extra mile. There's so much to be learner outside the borders.

    Mucho Amor,
    Kashi

Tuesday, 28 July 2009

  • New Beginning

    Hey everyone!

      Following certain events, as my life starts out anew, I've decided to open up a new xanga to tell what new things arise. I promise to try to keep it interesting, since I myself put down anything that doesn't catch my attention at first glimpse sometimes. But give me a chance, I'm bound to strike a chord with everyone at some point in time.

      If you're ever in need of friendly advice at random, just leave me a comment. I'm always here to lend an ear and a few words of wisdom.

    After all, my Japanese given name IS Kashira Hibana... in other words... Sparkle of Wisdom.

    Take Care all!

    ~Kashi

  • Hey peeps!!! I'm back on xanga after years of inactivity! Hope ya'll enjoy this!

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